Post by kewpie-chan on May 19, 2006 0:45:57 GMT -5
Sukyin I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you in the past but am glad you came out on top 
I can totally understand and relate about the stalker situation for I went through that as well only I was in second grade! And the stalker was a 6th grader. The worst part besides being terrorized by this bully/stalker (oh yes, there is something much worse than being stalked) was my mother blaming me for having it happen! Oh she tried to get the teacher and principal to catch this kid or suspend him but he was a clever boy who terrorized me before and after school or when I was alone in between classes (which was rare) so they didn't have enough proof. The other kids saw this happen to me and tried to help but he only got sent home for a day or two and once he was back, was living hell for me. One day I begged my mother if I can stay home and not go to school (I tried this at least twice a week) she got upset at me and said, "It has to be something YOU are doing to the boy since he doesn't pick on anyone else in school! What are YOU doing? You must be doing something to bring this all upon yourself!" I yelled back, "Because he thinks I'm cute mommy! He says I'm beautiful like a doll. I hate being cute!! Why can't I be ugly or normal so no one stares at me or picks on me?" and cried and cried. So next day, my mother's bright idea was to make her cute daughter a plain Jane by cutting my very long hair to a short pixie style and brought me new clothes...slacks and T-shirts. No more dresses! I guess she figured if I looked more like a boy, things would be better. Stalker boy soon after was expelled for beating up another kid so I was able to finally relax. But psychologically, the damage by this boy (and later on another in junior high) had an impact on me so that I learned to "hide" and stay in the background not drawing attention to myself. I did everything possible to look plain or like a tomboy for in my mind, being pretty meant being hurt. Wasn't until near end of my junior year in high school I came out of my "shell". And when I did, I floored everybody! Heck, one or two of my friends didn't recognize me LOL!
So Sukyin, I totally know where you're coming from when you say that to this day, you still can be a bit reclusive due to what's happened to you in the past. The trick is, you recognize it so you know you CAN do something about it if you choose to do so.
Being pretty (or handsome) is a double edged sword...it's a blessing and a curse. Some days I feel it's one way, other days I feel it's the flip side. But then, so is life right? It is a blessing and a curse sometimes. Now that I'm "older" if life gives me lemons, I make lemonade ;D
And Sreyda is right...discovering Takeshi-san is good but chit-chatting with this fans on a forum who are supportive and kind is too cool for words
I can totally understand and relate about the stalker situation for I went through that as well only I was in second grade! And the stalker was a 6th grader. The worst part besides being terrorized by this bully/stalker (oh yes, there is something much worse than being stalked) was my mother blaming me for having it happen! Oh she tried to get the teacher and principal to catch this kid or suspend him but he was a clever boy who terrorized me before and after school or when I was alone in between classes (which was rare) so they didn't have enough proof. The other kids saw this happen to me and tried to help but he only got sent home for a day or two and once he was back, was living hell for me. One day I begged my mother if I can stay home and not go to school (I tried this at least twice a week) she got upset at me and said, "It has to be something YOU are doing to the boy since he doesn't pick on anyone else in school! What are YOU doing? You must be doing something to bring this all upon yourself!" I yelled back, "Because he thinks I'm cute mommy! He says I'm beautiful like a doll. I hate being cute!! Why can't I be ugly or normal so no one stares at me or picks on me?" and cried and cried. So next day, my mother's bright idea was to make her cute daughter a plain Jane by cutting my very long hair to a short pixie style and brought me new clothes...slacks and T-shirts. No more dresses! I guess she figured if I looked more like a boy, things would be better. Stalker boy soon after was expelled for beating up another kid so I was able to finally relax. But psychologically, the damage by this boy (and later on another in junior high) had an impact on me so that I learned to "hide" and stay in the background not drawing attention to myself. I did everything possible to look plain or like a tomboy for in my mind, being pretty meant being hurt. Wasn't until near end of my junior year in high school I came out of my "shell". And when I did, I floored everybody! Heck, one or two of my friends didn't recognize me LOL!
So Sukyin, I totally know where you're coming from when you say that to this day, you still can be a bit reclusive due to what's happened to you in the past. The trick is, you recognize it so you know you CAN do something about it if you choose to do so.
Being pretty (or handsome) is a double edged sword...it's a blessing and a curse. Some days I feel it's one way, other days I feel it's the flip side. But then, so is life right? It is a blessing and a curse sometimes. Now that I'm "older" if life gives me lemons, I make lemonade ;DAnd Sreyda is right...discovering Takeshi-san is good but chit-chatting with this fans on a forum who are supportive and kind is too cool for words
